Baby was much to fast.
Throughout my years I have come to realize that no matter how you try things may not work out.
Ive spent years trying to fix an abysmally tarnished relationship back to some luster.
I tell you now with all the strength you can muster tough it out.
While sure you may wind up wounded and with a broken heart.
Life is all about experience. experience all things so that you have the knowlede to decide for yourself.
I had a customer ask me the other day. He says "How many of the thoughts in your head are your own?" without hesitation I had said to him "All of them." to which he says "Prove it"
Now there is no real way to prove it. And the more you argue the more wrong you are. My answer was this. "I expand my mind and believe in diversified ideologies. I meditate and spend alot of time in my head.
My mind is my only true home. For if you are home in your mind you are home anywhere.
People have given up on the quest for knowledge and settle down to what other people say. The best scientists were the ones who looked there predecessors in the face and said "Your wrong, let me show you why." and they spent their lives dedicated to disproving someones theory so as theirs may take over. Go for gold everytime and if you don't make it look at it not as a failure but as a successful route to get there.
Thomas Edison said. I've not failed I've just found 10,000 ways that wont work. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
So let that inspire you to be the best you , you can be. And should you have someone tell you that you fail or are a loser ignore them because all you have to do is admit to yourself you'll get there you just havent found your way yet and dont give up in what you want.
Friday, August 5, 2016
As a person who has been in a long term relationship I would like to stress communicate with your significant other. Let them truly know how your feeling. the quick snappy "I'm fine" or "yup" after being asked if you are OK is more detrimental to your relationship than saying "Hey I have a problem with this." and hashing it out. Pay attention to your lover, spouse, boyfriend, or just someone your pursing. Be empathetic to their needs. Every one always talks about a perfect relationship and the answer is to reciprocate what you would expect from your interest.
Remember to keep it genuine if you are a broken record of compliments or affectionate verbiage. It sounds automated. Find ways to make Him/Her laugh.
Rediscover some of the joy that brought you together. Travel to both new and familiar places. Meaning that while a new exciting adventure may lay ahead. Sometimes there are adventures we finished that were not truly complete.
Not just recreate but rewrite. Make newer fonder memories in the places that hold the most sentiment for you.
Life is not a straight forward path or even a forked road. Life is like a tree and all the branches, twigs, and leaves are different paths we could have gone.
Also know when its time to bail. Get out. Run. Leave. Flee. Sometimes two people can love each other so much it can be detrimental or toxic to both of their well-being. I still love my ex and always will but after 7 1/2 years of being on a high thrill roller coaster we both decided it had been enough.
The person I am I owe not only to my self and my decisions but to each and everyone of you that has touched my life in someway and I thank you all.
With much love. always your pal